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Hey there! Welcome Aairam and Bob! I'm glad you are here. This past month I've enjoyed time with fami

Unfragile Thyself

July 25 · Issue #28 · View online
Brief reflections on five experiences

Hey there! Welcome Aairam and Bob! I’m glad you are here.
This past month I’ve enjoyed time with family and friends, learned how to improve my marriage, thought about education as a “weak link” sport, prepared myself not to be surprised, and refined one of my favorite morning activities.
Here’s to a fantastic summer!
~ Tod

Withdrawals 🏦
Thank you, friends and family, for spending summer with me and putting so many positives in my life. I’m going to bank some of those now and make withdrawals from Kuwait when I am missing you.
With Terry at Rock the Garden • Wade at Target Field • Bruce and Mom at Wisconsin Point • Tatiana and Erin at Perch Lake • John at Nest Lake • Maria, Margaret, Tatiana, Christy, Jackie, and Cris at Nando Valley • Tatiana and Dad at Barnes home • Dad and Gabriel grilling on deck
Positivity ☀️
Now I’m striving to put positivity in my marriage. And, thanks to Professor Gottman, I know how much is needed.
A 5 to 1 ratio, to be exact. Five good things for every one negative. When the ratio is closer to 1 to 1, you might want to start thinking about who is going to get the house in the divorce settlement.
This ratio is useful. I find myself counting the good things in a day and trying to get that 5 to 1 ratio. Surprising to me, striving to accumulate more positive feelings than negative is like playing a fun game.
And I’m wondering if I can apply positivity to my other relationships. With my son? parents? friends? co-workers?
Students 👩🏽‍🎓
I’m thinking about Malcom Gladwell’s analogy that I read in the EdSurge newsletter (subscription only).
It goes like this: basketball is a “strong link” sport, where success hinges on the best players, who then receive the most support. By contrast, soccer is a “weak link” sport, where the team only does as well as the weakest player.
You can listen to Malcom Gladwell explore this analogy in depth in My Little Hundred Million.
In education we need to think soccer, not basketball. Every single student matters. When all students do well, our society does well.
Surprised 😲
To better anticipate things that could happen I’m banning “I don’t think it will happen.” from my thoughts and replacing it with “Everything might happen.” Inspiration: There’s No Excuse for Being Surprised
Journaling 📔
Journaling in the morning is one of my favorite things to give my day a strong start. For about two months now I have been journaling that new way I mentioned back in April. My first two entries begin with “From name of person here I learned…” and my last two begin with “I am grateful for…”. Each entry is one sentence long. Writing about what I learned from people pushes me to to be curious and engaged with people. Writing about what I am grateful for makes me feel happy.
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Watch your bobber!
~ Tod

🛎️ Next on Unfragile Thyself, the Bakers return to Kuwait and then Tati and Gabo head to Spain.
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